1 Quit procrastinating on your goals
Some people dream of success while others
wake up and work hard at it. Action and
change are often resisted when they’re
needed most. Get a hold of yourself and
have discipline. Putting something off
instantly makes it harder and scarier. What
we don’t start today won’t be finished by
tomorrow. And there’s nothing more
stressful than the perpetual lingering of an
unfinished task.
The secret to getting ahead is simply
getting started. Starting, all by itself, is
usually sufficient to build enough
momentum to keep the ball rolling. So
forget about the finish line and just
concentrate on taking your first step. Say to
yourself, “I choose to start this task with a
small, imperfect step.” All those small steps
will add up and you’ll actually get to see
changes fairly quickly. Read Getting Things
Done.
2.
Quit blaming others and making excuses.
Stop blaming others for what you have or
don’t have, or for what you feel or don’t
feel. When you blame others for what
you’re going through, you deny
responsibility and perpetuate the problem.
Stop giving your power away and start
taking responsibility for your life. Blaming is
just another sorry excuse, and making
excuses is the first step towards failure;
you and only you are responsible for your
life choices and decisions.
3.
Quit trying to avoid change.
If nothing ever changed there would be no
sunrise the next morning. Most of us are
comfortable where we are even though the
whole universe is constantly changing
around us. Learning to accept this is vital to
our happiness and general success.
Because only when we change, do we
grow, and begin to see a world we never
knew was possible.
And don’t forget, however good or bad a
situation is now, it will change. That’s the
one thing you can count on. So embrace it,
and realize that change happens for a
reason. It won’t always be easy or obvious
at first, but in the end it will be worth it.
4.
Quit trying to control the uncontrollable.
If you try to control everything, and then
worry about the things you can’t control,
you are setting yourself up for a lifetime of
frustration and misery.
Some forces are out of your control, but
you can control how you react to things.
Everyone’s life has positive and negative
aspects – whether you’re happy or not
depends greatly on which aspects you
focus on. The best thing you can do is to let
go of what you can’t control, and invest
your energy in the things you can – like
your attitude.
5.
Quit talking down to yourself.
Nothing will bring you down quicker than
berating yourself. The mind is a superb
instrument if used right, but when used
incorrectly, it becomes very destructive. Be
aware of your mental self-talk. We all talk
silently to ourselves in our heads, but we
aren’t always conscious of what we’re
saying or how it’s affecting us.
As Henry Ford once stated, “Whether you
think you can, or you think you can’t, you’re
right.” One of the major causes of why we
fail is due to self-doubt and negative self-
talk. The way to overcome negative
thoughts and destructive emotions is to
develop opposing, positive emotions that
are stronger and more powerful. Listen to
your self-talk and replace negative thoughts
with positive ones, over time you will
change the trajectory of your life.
6.
Quit criticizing others.
The negativity you bleed out toward others
will gradually cripple your own happiness.
When you truly feel comfortable with your
own imperfections, you won’t feel
threatened or offended by the
imperfections you see in other people.
So stop worrying about the flaws you see
in everyone else, and focus on yourself. Let
the constant growth and improvement in
your own life keep you so busy that you
have no time left to criticize others.
7.
Quit running from your problems and
fears.
Trust me, if everyone threw their problems
in a pile for you to see, you would grab
yours back. Tackle your problems and fears
swiftly, don’t run away from them. The best
solution is to face them head on no matter
how powerful they may seem.
Fears, in particularly, stop you from taking
chances and making decisions. They keep
you confined to just the small space where
you feel completely comfortable. But your
life’s story is simply the culmination of
many small, unique experiences, many of
which require you to stretch your comfort
zone. Letting your fears and worries
control you is not ‘living,’ it’s merely
existing.
Bottom line: Either you own your problems
and fears, or they will ultimately own you.
8. Quit living in another time and place.
Some people spend their entire lives trying
to live in another time and place. They
lament about what has been, what they
could have done, or what might become.
However, the past is gone, and the future
doesn’t exist. No matter how much time we
spend thinking and lamenting about either,
it doesn’t change anything.
One of life’s sharpest paradoxes is that our
brightest future hinges on our ability to pay
attention to what we’re doing right now,
today.
We need to live more in the moment. Living
in the moment requires active, open,
intentional awareness on the present. Don’t
fantasize about being on vacation while at
work, and don’t worry about the work
piling up on your desk when you’re on
vacation. Live for now. Notice the beauty
unfolding around you.
9.
Quit trying to be someone you’re not.
One of the greatest challenges in life is
being yourself in a world that’s trying to
make you like everyone else. Someone will
always be prettier, someone will always be
smarter, someone will always be younger,
but they will never be you. Don’t change so
people will like you. Be yourself and the
right people will love you, and you’ll love
yourself more too.
10.
Quit being ungrateful.
Not all the puzzle pieces of life will seem to
fit together at first, but in time you’ll realize
they do, perfectly. So thank the things that
didn’t work out, because they just made
room for the things that will. And thank the
ones who walked away from you, because
they just made room for the ones who
won’t.
No matter how good or bad you have it,
wake up each day thankful for your life.
Someone somewhere else is desperately
fighting for theirs. Instead of thinking
about what you’re missing, try thinking
about what you have that everyone else is
missing. REPOTING 4RM JUDEXMAN
